There are three things that we allow to come between us and our relationships. First is know your idenity in Christ. Second Offense and unresolved conflict, is the bait of Satan! Third Lack of empathy. Fourth Seek first to understand, then be understood. This takes an attitude of humility, patience, kindness, honor and love. Fifth Old paterns of thinking. Let people out of the box. They may have changed and grown, but you are keeping them where they were.
Remember the enemies of our soul are Fear, rejection, self-bitterness, shame, guilt, condemnation, insecurity, wrong identity in Christ, defilement, sin, bitterness, hopelessness, doubt and unbelief. We must fight to drive out these enemies of our soul!
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